Today I went to the grocery store to get some more milk. I had John in a wrap that some friends got for us. I have not used it too much because John and I both get pretty hot in it. However, it is very convenient
when I need both my hands free. I also don't like carrying John around in his car seat - that can get really heavy.
On our way back from the store we passed by some people who were smoking. Once I was beyond them, one of the men (in his 20s) said "I would never wear that thing... it looks like she is pregnant again." It is always awkward when you hear someone talking about you and they think you can't hear. In my head, I turned around and said "If you are going to be negative, please wait until I can't hear you." But the real Lindsey is way too timid to say that to a stranger. The "in my head" Lindsey is so bold sometimes!!
This negative comment made me think about how motherhood is so unappreciated. First of all, I wouldn't mind being pregnant again, so his "negative" comment was not really that negative. I think every aspect of motherhood is beautiful, albeit challenging at times. For example, it is a good day for me when I even get dressed and out of the house! When you have a baby, doing anything takes at least twice as much time. Using the wrap probably saved me 15-20 minutes! And we all know how precious time is.
I am reading a book right now called How to Change Your Husband. The title is effectively deceiving, because the book is all about how to be a better wife. This book has been an amazing read. I have learned so much about my vocation as wife and mother. One of the points the author makes is that staying at home to raise your children is the best gift a mother can give to her children, husband, and herself.
In our culture, staying at home to raise children is frowned upon -at best. Andrew and I hope that I will be able to stay at home with our children. God has really pointed us in this direction and given us much support to make it happen. However, I know it will be difficult and I will be faced with disparaging comments such as the one above.
More wisdom from the book How to Change Your Husband:
"Those wives who [stay at home to raise their children and keep their home] will be martyrs because it will be difficult to do that all society is not doing. It will be like swimming against the tide, but happiness and fulfillment awaits the mother who tries and makes it to her island, her home."
The comment I heard today puts a pit in my stomach. But I know being a mother is and will be wonderful. I just pray that man will open his heart towards parenting and... wearing your baby in a wrap! (Babies like it!)